Jess Trachsel Jess Trachsel

Attention as Connection: Recognizing and Responding to “Bids for Connection”

Relationships thrive on the small, everyday moments we often overlook. Psychologist John Gottman calls these “bids for connection”—the subtle ways people ask for attention, affection, or understanding. Whether it’s a casual question, a gentle touch, or a sigh at the end of a long day, these signals are opportunities to strengthen closeness. This article explores what bids look like, why we often miss them, and how therapy and intentional responses can help deepen connection.

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SoulSoothe Counselling & Wellness SoulSoothe Counselling & Wellness

Untangling Depression: What Attachment, Brain Science, and Psychology Can Teach Us

Depression is more than sadness—it’s a complex interplay of biological, psychological, and relational factors that can impact the brain, body, and emotions. Shaped by early attachment patterns and neurological processes, it’s not a personal failure but a treatable condition. Insights from neuroscience, attachment theory, and trauma-informed therapies offer hope by addressing root causes, promoting healing, and leveraging neuroplasticity to rewire the brain. Understanding depression opens the door to recovery, resilience, and renewed emotional connection.

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Parenting Without Fear: Why Attachment Matters More Than Control

Parenting doesn’t have to be driven by fear or control. Instead, building a secure emotional connection with your child can foster trust, cooperation, and lifelong resilience. This article explores the principles of attachment parenting—backed by brain science and research—and shows how connection, not punishment, helps children thrive. Whether you're raising toddlers or teens, you’ll find practical, compassionate tools to support emotional growth and create a calmer, more connected family dynamic.

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Bryce MacEwen, BSW, RSW Bryce MacEwen, BSW, RSW

Attachment Theory and Our Relationship with God

Attachment theory, which explains how early relationships shape trust and connection, can also provide valuable insights into our relationship with God. Understanding this connection helps us deepen our faith and heal relational wounds. Whether through self-reflection, counselling, or contemplative practices, the journey toward secure attachment with God is worth the effort.

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Bryce MacEwen, BSW, RSW Bryce MacEwen, BSW, RSW

Building Love That Lasts: What Sue Johnson Taught Us About Healthy Relationships

Relationships can often feel like a thrilling yet unpredictable rollercoaster ride, full of highs, lows, and moments of confusion. Sue Johnson offers a guide to building healthier relationships. Her work, rooted in attachment theory, emphasizes the importance of the emotional bond between partners. Johnson provides practical tools to help couples create a stable and loving connection. With these insights, relationships can become resilient, enduring challenges like stress, anxiety, and trauma.

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